writing sacred contracts

Sacred Contracts are a way to release the cords of attachment we have with others..

This is a potent practice in releasing old stories, renewing the relationship (internally) and releasing the emotions we have intertwined with others.This will be a practice to continue over and over again along the journey.I find it incredibly helpful around through the moon cycles; as well as in our own cycles of life/death/rebirth on our journeys. What a divine time to explore as through these times we are living through!

This is a self-care ritual that was shared to me through a dear friend. She is a Shamanic Life Coach and has taught me a great deal on boundary setting, empowerment tools and releasing attachments to people and connections that do not serve my highest good.

A big focus of our Radiant Woman Journey is deeply devoted to establishing self-care rituals that nourish and replenish us.

From this commitment to ourselves, we can stand in the place of vulnerability and look at the different relationships we have in our lives: to ourselves, partners, family members, friends, clients, community, etc.. When we take the rose colored glasses off, we can give a good hard look at what relationships are feeding us and what relationships are depleting us.

We hold our own emotions in our yoni, and we can easily take on the emotions of others as well. This is a nature tendency as we are empathic women.

But, this can also inhibit our own growth, healing and empowerment when we carry too much of other people’s stuff and not have the proper tools to release it.

This week’s exercise may be very new to you, and I invite you to take your time exploring it.

Use your journal for this writing exercise to begin to go deeply into the agreements we have made in our lives and the relationships we have in our lives.

First look into your relationship with your parents, then with your partner, children, good friends, family, community and continue extending this out so you have a wide view of the circles you participate in.

 Example: "My mother (and society) taught me to be a subservient wife with a heavy dose of fear of my husband’s retaliation." This agreement/contract feeds the victim role and it was only a matter of time before we started the brutal triangulation of blame and fear… Meaning how we find ourselves in other relationships with the blame/fear theme (sisters, friends, etc).

 First step with this observation: Become aware of the contracts, then allow a stillness with them.

Then, write a 'break up letter'  letter to those people, one contract at a time, acknowledging the old contract and your resignation of the agreement.

Feel your power coming back into you each time, choosing to no longer give away your power. example: "Dear Blank, Let this letter serve as acknowledgement that I no longer choose to uphold any past agreements to be subservient, obedient to you, and/or put your requests, needs, and/or guidance above my own. I now choose to honor and follow my own requests, needs, and guidance above all else as I am divinely inspired and supported by the universe. Thank you for your cooperation."

Ask yourself the following for each relationship:

1. Do I feel oppressed, hopeless, incapable, or misunderstood?

2. Do I feel guilty and anxious if I uphold my integrity of healthy boundaries?

3.Do I feel critical, anger, resentment or a need to control the other?

Sit with awareness and non judgement at your answers.

A few important things to note:

•     This is not meant for you to leave and dissolve every relationship you have in your life.

•     This is an exercise in internal observation to notice underlying themes…Where is there room for change?

•     Where do you need to take your power back?

•     This is a whole new playing field, and the intention here is to create observation on how you might give away your power OR maybe remind you on how you hold your power.

•     Ask yourself, what does this exercise bring up for me?